Hi there Tarot Tots!!!
Today I’m going to start with a quote from “A year of inspired living” by Kelly McGrath Martinsen
“Judgmental: A negative word to describe someone who often rushes to judgment without reason. The adjective “judgmental” describes someone who forms lots of opinions– usually harsh or critical ones– about lots of people. Judgmental types are not open-minded or easygoing.” pg. 105
The reason I chose that quote to start this month is because I would like to start a kind of thing for “Judgmental July.” For this “holiday” or “theme” or whatever, I am going to try and take the usual reading of a tarot card and try to do the opposite of the usual “judging” it. I want to see something different in my pulls this month. Of course, not all pulls with be in this theme; I will still have my usual things. I just figured I would try something new.
As for those judgmental people, don’t let them affect you. I know that it is easy to say, and I agree! It’s *HARD* to let things go sometimes. We take things that others say to heart; things we don’t need to take that way. They warp our perceptions of the world around us and the way we see ourselves.
I grew up with a lot of judgment. I was often told I was “too weird” for all the other kids. Too hyper, too excited, too loud, too cheerful. Why is that an issue? Why are any of those things issues? Is it wrong for a child to be happy? I can understand being too loud if you are in some form of setting where being quiet is key (like a church, monastery, etc.), but it really shouldn’t be an issue. Kids will be kids. That’s why I am always patient with kids when I go places. I *WAS* that child, and sometimes I can *STILL* be that child. Get me wound up and I’m going to talk your head off. (It really depends on the topic.)
I have a friend who has a few children. She has a young girl (We can call this girl Korra). Korra is a VERY excitable girl, and she often reminds me of myself. When I was younger, people CONSTANTLY told me I had to be quiet, and that really affected me. I grew up feeling meek and unwanted. I don’t want Korra to feel this way, so I am patient and I listen to her as much as she wants. Funny thing, she brags about me all the time (lol). She likes talking to me and I like talking to her. She’s a very smart little girl and I am very proud of my friend for raising such a lovely young lady. I hope she grows into her excitable-ness and learns to use it for good, which I have no doubt she will. She talks about art, politics, everything. I know I will never have children (Vyvyan and Batsz cannot have children: we’re not going into that) but I hope that if I had a child, I would have one like Korra. So full of life and lively, pleasant and kind. Chattiness is not a drawback for me. It shows me she pays attention and notices things. I couldn’t be any happier to call her my “niece.”
I have a lot of people who body shame me in my life as well. I’m not going to lie, I am overweight. (Morbidly obese in doctor terms. I’ve seen it on my charts when I look at what they are writing. I know I shouldn’t, but I do.) I’m not the healthiest, either. I have anemia and other issues. But these things have seriously affected my mind and how I feel about myself. When you are told how bad you look, even passively, for YEARS, you start to kind of believe it. I’m trying to pull myself out of this trap with positive affirmations. I bought myself some crop tops and I’m finally living. I know that “you only live once” is a thing, and I’m starting to believe it. Why should I live in fear of people judging me for something I hardly have control over (trust me, I’ve tried. I’m still trying)? I want to be happy in my own skin. Do NOT let others dictate how you live your life. If you are not hurting anyone by wearing it (think metal cone bra to the eye sockets maybe) then you shouldn’t have to worry about wearing it. You are you. You are perfect, just like me (although we can all probably avoid those metal cone bras).
So yeah. Judgmental July is going to be a thing. I’ll think about it more and bring it to you guys as often as I can. Things about judgmental people, ways to fight back, etc. We can all do this together!
Lots of love,
Entie Vyvyan Wormwood
The Wormwood Oracle and the Mind Behind the Darkest Designs